By: B Goode
I was at Pinkdot2016. Yay go me!
It was what I’d expected, more or less. There was a guy in pink tutu, and another guy in an excruciatingly tight yellow extremely short shorts. He looked like he was in his sixties. A transvestite in pink saree. A group of elderly gays dressed as the Village People. A group of possers with their dogs. Some straight couples and families who wanted to be seen as oh so cool. Some Caucasians who shouldn’t been there. Lots of queers and lots and lots of pink.
I felt like a crow amongst the flamingos in Lake Nakuru. I was wearing black because pink didn’t go with my black sandals and no way in hell would I be caught with a pair of pink shoes.
It was fun. But the music sucked though. I mean, not a single song from ABBA? A gay event is not gay enough without an ABBA song. Period!
And what was up with the speakers? It was a pity-party with them lamenting about how sad and unfortunate they were to be gays in Singapore.
Oh girl puhleese! Just shut up. You guys were sponsored by Google ffs! At least you were not deaf and mute working as a cleaner in JEM.
And you know what were missing? The gay gentlemen and the lesbian ladies. To me at least, Pink Dot has been hijacked by the loud transvestites and the queers. The very type of people with their colourful lifestyles that are so flagrantly intimidating to the straights, even to some of those in the community whom I managed to talk to who found their antics to be too gross.
Anyway, as I was making my way back home, I stopped by the MRT toilet. As I was going into the men’s room, I saw two tomboys coming out of the ladies’, and in the men’s there was a sissy wiping off the pink glitter from his cheeks.
Again this is where there exists an insurmountable chasm between the LGBTs and the straights. It has got something to do with privacy and personal space.
If a straight man was not allowed into a ladies’ room, how could a lesbian permitted to? Similarly, how could a gay man allowed into a men’s toilet?
The answer, as some had argued, was for toilets to be classified based on gender identity instead of sex. Meaning, a man who identified himself as a woman should go into the ladies’. But the problem would be a pervert would enter a ladies’ toilet and if caught would simply identify himself as a female.
Which means there is a need for a third toilet for the LGBT community, with a pink door perhaps. But then again, this would bring out a slew of other issues and problems. For example, in what form should the gender identity be? Should there be another column in our NRIC to state our gender identity? If so, at what age should it be inserted because obviously a child would not be able to decide their own gender identity yet. Most importantly, would the LGBT be brave enough to honestly and openly state their gender identity? I suspect many wouldn’t.
My point is, and this is for the LGBT community to ponder, their clamour for acceptance and equality vis a vis the society at large is not as easy as simply changing the laws. There are other things that need to be changed as well; social, cultural, behavioural and religious mindsets to name just a few. And it is not only the mindsets of the straights that need to be changed, but the LGBT community’s as well. If the lesbians were not comfortable to go into the men’s room, it meant that there were a lot more things that needed changed before the laws could be changed.
I don’t know. I am confused now. But one thing I am sure of is that I am a lesbian trapped in a man’s body. Go figure.